Do any of these seem familiar to you?
You wake with a feeling of dread in the pit of your stomach, but you don’t know why, and it can take ages to get rid of, if ever?
You get palpitations, sweaty and trembling hands, feel dizzy or spacey and you feel like you can’t breathe properly?
You might be getting full on panic attacks.
Concentration and focus are a struggle and you can procrastinate like it’s an Olympic sport, and it’s getting in the way of doing your job?
You feel restless and on edge much of the time and can’t remember the last time you really felt calm and relaxed?
You used to love going out, but these days you feel too nervous, even scared, because you feel so unconfident and sometimes even going to work feels like a challenge?
You worry about these feelings and you just want to feel ‘normal’?
You worry about everything and you worry that you worry so much.
It could be anxiety.
What is anxiety?
Anxiety can be a problem in itself, but it can also be the main symptom of otherconditions, including panic disorder, phobias (such as agoraphobia or claustrophobia), post-traumatic stress disorder, and social anxiety disorder.
If you suffer from anxiety you already know how much it can interfere with your life and your happiness. On the surface you may seem like you are living a great life but underneath you struggle, every day. Maybe you’ve tried comfort eating, drinking alcohol or smoking. It seems to help, but only for a while, and then it’s back with its best mates guilt and self-loathing.
Because of this perhaps your weight is ballooning or you’re smoking too much. Maybe for you social anxiety is the problem. Binge drinking can become almost normal because without alcohol you feel boring, frightened or just not part of the crowd. You know its self-destructive and it all feels so out of control, but you don’t know where to turn.
What can you do about it?
Let me tell you first off, that anxiety is a perfectly natural warning mechanism and we never want to be entirely rid of it. But when it gets out of control it damages your confidence, thinking, relationships, health, sleep, work and your happiness. It doesn’t have to be like this. There are many people in the world who have learned to manage their anxiety so that it no longer defines them.
Sarah did it. She said that the turning point for her was having a coach who truly understood her, listened without judgement and supported her the whole time. She learned how to manage her anxiety so that she could then tackle her secret comfort eating and unhealthy relationship with food that was keeping her overweight and unhappy. She’s now so much more confident and looking forward to wearing her summer clothes for the first time in years.
I did it. This work is very personal for me because a few years ago after a lifetime of thinking there was something inherently wrong with me, I found that my ‘weirdness’ and social awkwardness was anxiety based. So, I learned all I could about it and now I’m passionate about helping others to be free of its crippling effects.
However your anxiety is showing up you can beat this. You don’t have to be afraid for the rest of your life. You can be yourself, find your confidence again and start to do the things you really want to do. Once your anxiety is under control, you’ll have the energy and motivation to achieve whatever it is you want, whether that’s losing weight, cutting down on alcohol and binge drinking, stopping smoking or overcoming phobias or procrastination.
One of the first things is to understand the reason for your anxiety and why it has become overwhelming, then looking at what triggers your anxiety. What you’re worried and anxious about isn’t always apparent and this, in itself, can make you anxious.
Another aspect is that once anxiety has been triggered the physical reaction caused by the anxiety can be learned as a trigger in itself. So, for example, blushing can be a symptom of anxiety which is then ‘fused’ with the anxious state so blushing for any other reason can then trigger anxiety. Working with a therapist will help you uncover your triggers and learn ways to stop anxiety in its tracks.
There are many ways to ‘turn down’ anxiety and put it in its rightful place, under your control. During therapy I try a few of these so that you can decide which ones work best for you. There’s always something that really does the trick which you can then practice and use whenever you feel anxious. Often a combination of techniques just come together and work their magic but it’s a very personal thing, that’s why with therapy there can be no ‘one size fits all’ approach.
And it doesn’t have to always be hard, it can be fun, as YB says:
“Hazel worked with me over a number of weeks using powerful coaching and cognitive hypnotherapy to help adopt some really practical techniques and ways of reasoning. These ranged from finding places of strength in my own character and from my past, to keeping present in the everyday, to looking optimistically towards a future self, and plenty of others. … Each which came with new ideas and tools to learn and were fun to experiment with.”
But the main thing is to get the help you need, it doesn’t matter how long you’ve had it. Living with anxiety is miserable. It’s a waste of a life. It weighs you down, gets in the way of your natural joy and stops you living the life you really want, the life you deserve.
Book a free consultation now to discover how much support and help you can get with my Anxiety Management Programme and just for a moment imagine a life without the constant battle with anxiety. You can do this. I can show you how.